What Each Sex Position Feels Like for Guys

It’s highly likely that you have a ranking of your favorite sex positions. Maybe girl on top makes you feel like the hottest cowgirl-goddess hybrid at the rodeo but doggy style just ends with your cervix feeling like one giant bruise. It’s the same for guys; here’s a glimpse inside a man’s mind when you’re getting it on.
 

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Missionary
“It’s classic. I like starting this way the most, so it has the added benefit of being associated with the feeling of first entry. There's nothing like slipping into her warm wetness down there. It makes me think there's a reason humans evolved to have sex this way. Plus, if I get too close to coming early, I can just think about the name of the position, and it keeps me from going over the edge. Missionary: sexy position, unsexy name.” —Sam J.

“Good old faithful. Though I think missionary is over-used, it serves several good purposes. It's the position where I feel most in control of what is going on, probably partially due to my familiarity with it since it’s over-used. When I have that control, I’m more capable of making myself orgasm, and I'm all for orgasms. It's also a good go-to position when you are working with inexperienced girls. They feel more comfortable when you’re on top doing the work. The drawback is that women sometimes feel like their role here is to just lie back and enjoy. As much as I love seeing a woman's face as she experiences pleasure, so much more can be done while you're on your back. Just because you're on your back doesn't mean you're out of the fight. You have hands, lips, a voice, etc.” —Adam K.

“This is obviously a go-to. I use it if I'm trying to draw things out. My problem with missionary is that it seems that the ladies can't do much to change up the tightness down there by squeezing, and I can't do anything fancy from this position. It’s really good when you're feeling romantic and want to do the whole eye-contact thing, especially when you finish.” —Nathaniel Z.

“This is the most mercurial of all positions. It can be terrible, but it can also be out-of-this-world intimate. Looking into the eyes of your lover and seeing either ecstasy or embarrassment is truly a moment of trust and fear. It’s great for your first round of sober sex or after you said ‘I love you.’” —Cal A.

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Doggy Style
“This feels rough and dirty to me, in a good way. I really like it because of the view of her whole back. Plus, the slapping sound this position makes can be really sexy in the right context. Maybe not the right pick for a super romantic night, though.” —SJ

“Doggy style forfeits a bit of the control aspect of missionary style in exchange for a wonderful view. Not much better things to look at than a woman's ass as you penetrate her. There is something sexy and animalistic about making love to someone this way. Some people say it makes you feel powerful, but I don't think that's the right word. I think it's feral.” —AK

“Fantastic. It’s not just her butt slapping against me but the access to her boobs if I lean forward, a nice view of her butt, and the ability to grab and thrust hard—and in any angle I want. I love the control. I think this is the most visceral, and it appeals to the animal in all of us. Plus, how long and hard you can go? C’mon!” —NZ

“This is the most dominant position for a guy there is. I control the pace, depth, and the girl in general. Spanking, squealing, and hair pulling are highly encouraged and a major ego boost. I would hope she enjoys it when my balls smack against her clitoris repeatedly. It’s great for drunk Saturday nights.” —CA

 

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Girl on Top
“This is my favorite position. It feels like I go really deep when I thrust up, while she can always back away and maintain control so I don't have to worry about, uh, overdoing it. There are so many good places to put my hands: cupping her face, caressing her boobs, just pulling her in from her sides and back as she rides...wow.” —SJ

“Ever since Game of Thrones came out, this position reminds me of Daenerys. You know, the scene where Khal Drogo tries to have sex doggy style but she stops him and says, ‘Tonight, I will look upon your face.’ I love a girl that likes being on top. It shows confidence, and it makes my attraction for her grow. Though I rarely can orgasm from this position, it does help me reach orgasm later because it makes me feel way more attracted to my sexual partner.” —AK

“I love it for the view, and bouncing boobs are hot. But how much can you enjoy sex when you're thinking about how weird it's going to be next time you see your neighbors who live below you? Cowgirl seems loudest because a vertical bounce shakes the floor. With the others, I can kind of brace my weight so it doesn't sound like we're playing basketball.” —NZ

“Girl on top is a great position because it's an awesome show, like Cirque du Soleil. I don't have to do anything except watch everything bounce. I can be lazy but still have the power to surprise with a thrust. Mainly, I let the girl do the work while she is gyrating on top of me. It’s great for Sunday mornings.” —CA

 

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Reverse Cowgirl
“Combining the view of doggy style with the deepness and excitement of woman on top! What could possibly go wrong? My dick, that's what. It's just not that flexible. Okay, I can enjoy this position gently, but how many ladies really want to be gentle if they're requesting reverse cowgirl?” —SJ

“I don't have much experience with this one. The view is great, and it’s something different, which adds to its sex appeal. It's a less feral version of doggy style. I believe part of the reason I’m not all for it is that I haven't been with a woman who does it well. Perhaps—and hopefully—that will change.” —AK

“I’m not a fan. If she starts getting into it and gets over-ambitious in the height of her bounce, my penis could fall out. That could be a medical emergency for my junk if she comes down hard and something happens. Any time I get a mental image of my dick breaking, it kills the mood.” —NZ

“It’s a little more complex than girl-on-top, but I can still slide in easily. I like that my hands are free to spank, grab, and help out. It’s not necessarily a favorite, but can be timed so you both climax together.” —CA

 

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Spooning
“This is tricky if I don't want to be big spoon. Seriously though, spooning is great and really brings out the intimacy in sex. When so much of your body is pressed against hers, the friction is super hot.” —SJ

“I guess you could have sex from the spooning position, but I honestly haven't done it much. I'm not too into spooning in the cuddling realm, either. Actually, when it comes to spooning, I prefer being the little spoon, which I'm sure is not the norm, but whatever.” —AK

“Where is the leverage? There’s nothing to press off of. I can't keep this going more than 10 or 20 thrusts.” —NZ

“This one’s great because I can do long, slow strokes as a tease, and I like that my hands and mouth are free to seduce her. I see it as mainly the second act of foreplay before moving on. I love the sensation, hate the work, respect the outcome and process. It’s ideal for Wednesday night date night.” —CA

Bonus Round:
“One of my favorite positions is where I am standing on the edge of the bed and my partner is lying down. I basically hold her legs apart and thrust while I am standing. Great view of everything for both people. She gets to see my body working to please her, and I get to see her flexible legs spread out in front of me and her breasts bouncing back and forth as I thrust. Sweet memories.” —AK

“Spooning is a fantastic transition position into my favorite: guy on top, both face-down, like lying-down doggy style. This gives full boob access, an easy reach to the clitoris if you're feeling it, and she can tighten or loosen up how it feels down there easily from that position. It’s the best way to finish, too.” —NZ

“My favorite position is what I call the koala/monkey pick-up. It’s the most carnal thing I can do. Picking her up, slamming her against a wall, and thrusting is a monster boost to both parties. It shows I’m strong and feels great when I finish because of the strain. It’s perfect in the shower.” —CA

11 Ways to Make Doggy Style Even SEXIER

We like to think of doggy style as the original bad girl sex position. There's something a little wild, naughty, and titillating about it that just amps up the passion and makes you lust for more. Plus, it feels freaking amazing.   

"You can get the deepest penetration possible in this position, and you can also reach the G-spot," says Ava Cadell, Ph.D., author of Neurolovology. So if you're already a fan of this position, get ready to make it even more memorable. Here are 11 super-easy tweaks to raise the stakes: 

Get Vertical 
The classic doggy style set-up—kneeling on all fours—can feel great for a while, but eventually it may strain your body. "A lot of women complain that they get sore knees, or that it hurts their back or their neck," says Cadell. Fix that by getting off your knees and on your feet. Stand up and lean forward slightly against a wall, or bend over onto a table or a desk.  

Use Pillows   
Another surefire fix for rug burn on your knees: Prop yourself up with pillows, giving yourself a cushy foundation to rest on. Or lay completely flat on the bed and place a few pillows underneath your waist. This will create a great angle for him to enter you from behind, says Sadie Allison, Ph.D., author of The Mystery of the Undercover Clitoris. 

Get Out of the Bedroom
The best part about doggy style is that it doesn't require a bed—you can have sex all over the house. Try it in the shower, standing on a staircase while holding onto the bannister, or leaning over the kitchen counter. "My favorite is bending over a dryer that's on the spin cycle, so it's like a giant vibrator," says Cadell.

Skip the Strip
For a take-me-right-now kind of romp, pull up your dress or skirt and push aside your underwear, says Cadell. We promise, every time you wear this outfit, you'll have very fond memories.  

Give Yourself a Hand
Using your fingers or a vibrator, stimulate your clitoris as your partner thrusts for a climax that's twice as powerful. In fact, this is one of the top ways to increase your orgasm chances during doggy style, says Allison. 

Bring in the Nipples
If you like breast stimulation, doggy style is the perfect position to incorporate them, says Cadell. Grab your partner's hands and place them on your breasts. Then, by keeping your hands over his, you can show him exactly how you want him to fondle you. Think of this as naughty show and tell. 

Turn Up the Volume
During doggy style, "a lot of women feel more uninhibited because the guy can't see her face," explains Cadell. So let it go: Moan, grunt, talk dirty, and do all the things that you may be too shy to do in missionary position.  

Get a View 
Position yourself in front of a mirror so you and your partner can sneak a peak at each other from another angle, says Allison. And don't be surprised if it inspires you to put on a show. Toss your hair, arch your back a little more, and catch his eyes for a sultry look.

Go Out of Bounds 
If you're into it, this is the easiest position to switch from vaginal sex to backdoor play, says Cadell. Just make sure to switch the condom to avoid infection, and if it's your first time, be sure to use plenty of lube and goslow.  

Make it Sensual
Who says doggy style has to be rough all the time? Make it a little more romantic by opting for a side-to-side position—like spooning—or getting into position in the bathtub, suggests Cadell. 

Take Control 
Though it sometimes seems like your partner is calling the shots in this position, there's plenty you can do to take the reins. Arching your back more or less will let you control the depth (arching less won't let him go as deep), says Alison. Or you can reach behind and grab his hips to help control the speed of his thrusts.  

The Future of Female Orgasms May Not Be in Your Hands

Who doesn't love a good sheet-tearing orgasm? But are you willing to risk your health to have the most intense O possible?

Erotic toy manufacturer Fun Factory just released Orgasmia, a motorized medical implant that can be controlled by a Bluetooth device.

 

The contraption looks like a silicone wishbone and is surgically inserted in a woman's clitoris to help her orgasm via vibration. The device, along with the reversible outpatient procedure required to get it implanted, costs $6,500.

Meanwhile, the new Afterglow vibrator uses low-level laser energy to increase blood flow and arousal. The gadget also claims to form new blood vessels, to thicken older tissues with new collagen, and to decrease pathogenic bacteria and fungus such as yeast.

Afterglow™ Vibrator with Pulsewave™ Light Technology from Ralph Zipper on Vimeo.

How do doctors feel about the new devices? In short, not great. "There's inherent risk in just the procedure [to implant Orasmia] itself," says board certified ob-gyn Felice Gersh, M.D.

Hilda Hutcherson, M.D., a professor at Columbia University, echoes that concern: "As in any procedure where skin is breached and/or a foreign body is placed in your body, there are risks of infection, bleeding, scarring, as well as allergic reactions to the implant," she says. Plus, complications from anesthesia are always possible.

Afterglow is troubling, too, say experts. "This is potentially a very powerful tool," says Gersh. "My understanding of this process is it can create proliferation. It can activate the expression of genes, which can be involved in healing. [But] uncontrolled proliferation can be involved in an increase in the risk of cancer."

This is probably where the old adage "the cure is worse than the disease" would apply. And these products aren’t even marketed to people with dysfunction; they're being sold to perfectly healthy women.

The unknown potential adverse health effects are another seriously scary factor to consider, says Gersh. Since these products have no long-term data to support their use, "you're playing with fire." Makes using your hand to get the job done sound pretty amazing, huh?

Why Guys Love Round Butts

Baby got back: Women with curvy behinds made better nomadic child-bearers—which is why guys love round butts today, argues a new study from the University of Texas.

You’ve probably never thought about “lumbar curvature” or “vertebral wedging.” But the study authors have. And their research shows men tend to go gaga over a woman with the type of spine curvature that makes her butt seem to pop out or protrude. 

If you’re like the average man, you’re especially attracted to a woman with a spine that curves roughly 45 degrees above the top of her butt, the research shows.

Why? “This degree of curvature would have enabled ancestral women to shift their center of mass back over their hips during pregnancy,” says study coauthor David M.G. Lewis, Ph.D.

Back in hunter-gatherer times, human beings were constantly on the move. Staying still was a death sentence. So women who could keep walking long distances even while very pregnant had an advantage in terms of reproduction and survival. 

Lewis says a 45-degree lumbar curvature allows a woman to carry the weight of her unborn baby in a way that makes her less vulnerable to spinal injuries than women with more or less curvature. Thousands of years ago, this would have helped her to keep moving and foraging during the later stages of pregnancy—a huge plus, Lewis says. 

Apparently modern man hasn’t lost his taste for curvaceous, baby-bearing derrieres, this research suggests. For more booty science

some Sex Positions Every Couple Should Try

Right now, off the top of your head, name every sex position you know. We'll wait. You probably listed the usual suspects—missionary, cowgirl, spooning, doggy. You can do better. Not just because it'll give her better orgasms, but for your own orgasms as well. 

We have a few suggestions. Well, more than a few—45, to be exact—ways to make sex better.

That number probably sounds intimidating. You have your own sex position playbook (and you may be surprised by What Your Favorite Sex Position Says About You.) And maybe you're not, well, equipped for every position (be sure to read up on the Best Sex Positions for Every Penis Size). We're not saying you have to try all 45. Not in the same night, anyway. (Unless the mood strikes you. In which case, God speed!) Just add these moves to your sex position playbook, so you're ready when the time comes.

The Cat

a.k.a. Coital Alignment Technique

Benefits: Strong clitoral stimulation. In one study in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, women who were unable to have an orgasm in the missionary position reported a 56 percent increase in orgasm frequency using the coital alignment technique.

The CAT is just like the missionary except that your body is farther up and to one side. Instead of being chest to chest, your chest is near her shoulders. Have her bend her legs about 45 degrees to tilt her hips up. This causes the base of your shaft to maintain constant contact with her clitoris.

Now try this: Ask her to straighten her legs. Push your pelvis down a few inches while she pushes up.

Hot Tip — His

Instead of thrusting up and down, rock forward and back to, hopefully, provide enough stimulation for her to orgasm. Also try grinding your pelvis in a circular motion. Other studies suggest even greater success, with up to 73 percent of women achieving orgasm with CAT.

Waterfall

a.k.a. Head Rush

Benefits: The blood will rush to your other head, too.

Move to the edge of the bed and lie back with your head and shoulders on the floor as she straddles you. The blood will rush to your head creating mind-blowing sensations upon climax.

The Hot Seat

a.k.a. The Love Seat, The Man Chair

Benefits: Good G-spot stimulation.

Sit on the edge of the bed or on a chair with your feet on the floor. She turns away and backs up onto you, sitting between your legs. She can ride back and forth by pushing off the chair arms or pressing up with her feet. She can control the angle of entry by arching her back and pressing her buttocks into your groin. While doggy-style is about your dominance, The Hot Seat puts her in the driver's seat.

Now try this: She can reach under and stimulate the base of your penis, scrotum, and perineum. Meanwhile, you can reach around and stimulate her nipples.

Hot Tip — His

The best ways to help her get interested in sex when you can tell it's the farthest thing from her mind: Draw her a bubble bath, give her a massage, wrestle.

Gift Wrapped

a.k.a. The Horny Mantis 

Benefits: Relaxing position with deeper penetration and increased intimacy. 

Both of you lie on your sides facing one another. She bends and spreads her legs, and angles her vagina toward you. You lift your legs between hers to enter while she wraps her legs around your back.

Now try this: She can use her legs and feet to pull you close during thrusts for deeper penetration.

What Your Sleep Style Says About Your Relationship

are you an all-night snuggler or a keep-your-distance kind of sleeper? The answer may reveal subtle clues about your relationship. Couples who sleep less than an inch apart are more likely to be happy in their relationships than couples who sleep on opposite sides of the bed, according to a surveyconducted at this month's Edinburgh International Science Festival.

MORE: Comfortable Sleep For Two

For the study, researchers from the University of Hertfordshire surveyed 1,000 people about their sleeping habits when snoozing next to their partners. Looks like cuddly couples have the upper hand: 86 percent of couples who slept within an inch of one another were happy with their relationships, while only 66 percent of couples who slept more than 30 inches apart were content with their bond. Plus, touching played a huge role in their happiness; 94 percent of couples who spent the night in contact with each other were happy with their relationships, while only 68 percent of those who kept their hands to themselves said the same.

MORE: Stop Everything: You Can Now Snuggle With Ryan Gosling 

Now, this obviously doesn't mean you should panic about losing your partner or rethink your sleep style if you typically stick to your side of the bed—sometimes you just need some space! It makes sense that couples who are feeling less-than-thrilled about their romance are less likely to snuggle at night, which could account for some of the statistics. Plus, only 12 percent of couples actually slept within an inch of each other (let's be honest, that's pretty close) and only two percent slept over 30 inches apart, so chances are you are your partner are somewhere in the middle—of the bed and the happiness scale. Still, there's no harm in adding a little spooning action now and then if it'll boost your bond.

7 Women Reveal Why They Rejected Their Boyfriends' Marriage Proposals

We're guessing that when you think of proposals, you imagine the romantic parts of them, like gushy speeches and excited acceptances. Turns out, though, it's not uncommon for things to go in the opposite direction. A new survey found that an insane number of women have turned down a proposal—we're talking nearly one in four—so we asked some of these women why they became the bearer of bad news when their partner popped the big question. Here's what they had to say:   

"I had to. I felt like it was a last-ditch attempt to keep me around because he had been unfaithful. A ring can't fix something that is broken, and if a man thinks that a girl will forgive for a rock, then he is sadly mistaken." —Vanessa S. 

"What can I say? I knew that as much as he made me melt, we would be a walking disaster together. I think about him every day, but had to make the higher call." —Deborah P. 

"Wrong timing and lousy proposal—yes, without a ring." —Stephany F. 

"I simply couldn't see myself with said person for life. I have turned down a few proposals for the same reason." —Rebecca P. 

"We were in Fiji swimming in an infinity pool, it was Christmas Eve, and it was idyllic. He proposed to me when I surfaced from a lap underwater. I always thought I'd say yes, but the second he asked, I knew I had to say no. Without a word, I swam two lengths underwater as slow as I could to gather my thoughts. I knew I'd break his heart and rip our life apart, yet I had a nagging doubt. My gut said no. Surfacing from that swim to look into his deep brown eyes was one of the hardest moments of my life. The worst thing is I've been single ever since." —Katy L.